So it has been a long time since I wrote anything. Why, you ask? Because I am back in school and have never-ending schoolwork to do. I am not going to complain though because I am so glad to be back. I am holding
A's in both of my classes. See, I take my classes online. I love it. I can still take care of my kids and get my degree. What more can a mother ask for.
The kids have started school again too. They are loving it. However, Dakota is having a hard time listening to his teachers and keeps acting up. The school is trying to pressure me to put him back on his medicines. I say
NO!. Dakota has been off the medicine since school ended last year. This was the best summer we ever had with Dakota. He didn't have ups and downs, he wasn't temperamental, and he slept better. I do not want to give that up. They said Dakota is having a hard time staying focused on schoolwork. If I find this to be true and I know it is not intentional on Dakotas part, then I will try the patch. Until then, they will have to act like teachers and find a way to teach him.
Steve and I seem to get along more now. Not that we are acting like husband and wife much, just that we are civil to each other more often. I know some of our problems are my fault, but right now I don't really care. I mean, I just don't want to try to work them out because I know it will be one-sided. I know, that doesn't sound encouraging. What can I do though?
The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.
Proverbs 12:15
I guess I would do well to really heed this verse. I always think I am right and everyone else is wrong. Oh, I don't think that intentionally, but I seem to always come to that conclusion. Well, I will have to work on it.
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9:58 AM
Finally! I have gone back to the doctor and am in the process of getting fixed up. The doctor and I went through a lot of my symptoms too. He put me back on Levothyroxin for my thyroid condition. Let me tell you I am happy about taking the steps to get it under control.
I also started getting the birth control shot, Depo-Prevera. He was disgusted that no other doctor had put me on it since the main goal of any birth control for me would have been to
stop my period, not control it. Hopefully, I won't have anymore bleeding,
whatsoever. How much of a change that would be from bleeding non-stop for months, even over a year, to no bleeding at all. I can't wait.
Steve and I are getting along a bit better these days. Maybe it's because I am working towards my future, or maybe it's because I am feeling a bit better after seeing the doctor. Whatever it is, its a welcome peace.
I am really enjoying being back in school. I have started to get to know the other students in my class and am 1 week ahead on the work. I am just getting started on the week 3 work and we are still on the week 1 in class. I have made a pact with myself to stay ahead no matter what.
Anyhow, I will post back in a few days. Maybe sooner, if I have the time. Life is busy right now.
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3:12 PM
Yep, I did it again. I got myself back into school. I am going for my associate of arts in Information Technology/Visual Communication at
Axia College of University of Phoenix Online. I love that you can get your degree online, making it more accessible to people who don't have the time or resources to physically go to school. I officially start class on July 30th 2007 but have been able to access my course Syllabus.
After downloading the materials and organizing my notebook I quickly realized we had papers and projects due the 1st week. As a result, I have already started reading the material and will be jotting down ideas and notes.
I have a little confession. I am already terrified about the final project due at the end of the course. Do you wonder why? The project has to be a presentation done in Microsoft PowerPoint. I have never used the program much less made a presentation in it. I will make sure to discuss this with my instructor as well as do some tutorials.
I will have 2 classes each semester to complete. My first classes are
Contemporary Business Communication and
Skills for Learning in an Information Age. Writing. Why does it have to be about writing? Honestly, writing and math are my weak points. I know whats in my head, but seem to have a hard time getting it on paper (or the computer) as I intend. Drives me nuts. Therefore, I have made it a mission to be very organized.
Organized how? Well, I have started learning to use Microsoft Office OneNote to keep classes and information organized as well as take notes in. I have bought a little notepad to keep with me for any of those ideas I hope to have. Furthermore, I have told the kids that if they disturb me during my studying times I will hang them by their little toes and play with their toys in front of them. Of course they just laughed at me and called me a liar. Heathens, the lot of 'em.
To sum it up, I am about to be a very busy woman. I will keep you all posted weekly, if not daily (to practice writing) of my new adventures of online college life.
Labels: College Life
6:19 PM
I HATE HIM! I can't fucking help it. I am his wife, not his damn mother. Here it is a hour before he has to leave to go to work and the
bitch is still sleeping. I keep trying to get him up and what does he do? He tells me to leave him alone, and shutup. I hate the
bastard so much that I am suffering.
Because I hate the
idiot so bad I am more depressed, tense and mean. I don't know what to do though. I can't leave,
yet. My thoughts are consumed with hate for Steve. I am constantly thinking about my hate and feeling my hate for him. I need to get my health back in order, get a job and divorce the
bastard. He isn't worth what it is costing me.
Labels: Family Life
5:17 PM
Have you ever had an epiphany? I did today. I realized what was going on with me in more detail. Let me ask you something. What do you do when your tired? One of two things right? Me, I either go to sleep or eat something. Now think about it. I already have this thyroid condition which makes me gain weight and makes me tired. So here I am so awful
tired. However, since Steve
refuses to stay awake and help me with the boys, whats left?
I EAT! I eat to try to get more energy, even though it doesn't really work. Since I can't sleep and I am
always low on energy the only thing left to do is eat. Afterwards, I end up hating myself because my goal is to lose weight and get healthy. What a cycle. Thankfully, Steve's health insurance is kicking in and I can get back on synthroid.
Are you wondering if Steve and I are getting along any better? Sometimes, it seems we can be civil to each other. Maybe I have just gotten to a point that I cease to care, or maybe it's that I just
don't have the energy to care right now. Don't get me wrong, Steve still does things for us, like keep a job so I can stay home with the kids, buys me things for my laptop and keeps us all clothed. He just doesn't act like a husband or father. Do you think I should just suck it up and be greatful for what I got? I am greatful. I just want the emotional connection. I want to
feel like I'm married. Maybe once I start feeling a bit better I can think on this more.
I have been working towards my ultimate goal. I have been concentrating, as much as I can since I'm so damn tired, on learning CSS and flash. I love it. For some reason, I love CSS. Talk about making things so much easier. I never really thought I would like any type of coding, but I like CSS. Go figure! As for flash,
WOW! I have been learning by using the
Flash CS3 Professional Essential Training from
Lynda.com The video tutorials seems to help me a lot. I would recommend them to anyone.
Thanks for reading my ranting again. Hopefully I make sense. I am so tired these days I feel more delirious than anything. Here's hoping I get this all worked out soon.
Labels: Family Life
8:25 PM
When will summer end. It's driving me nuts. Actually, the kids have been doing real good this summer. Dakota has been surprisingly calm, for him. I love my babies, and am very proud of them. And Dakota hasn't even had his medicine all summer. In a way, I think that medicine is bad news. You see, Dakota uses the medicine as an excuse to act up. At least that's the way I see it, because when he's in school and as happened medicine he accept even more and will even tell the teachers I haven't had my medicine. Sounds more like a kid who knows what he's doing, doesn't it?
I'm still having marital problems. I've asked Steve a few times, if he thought we would make it. He would tell me "I don't know." And then would walk off. How am I supposed to take that? You know what's worse? Knowing in your head how it should be, that you should have a good family life, how you should interact with your kids, your husband, your wife and so on, but when you look around yourself, you see the total opposite. You look around and hate yourself and think you're the worst mother or the worst wife or the worst whatever and wonder if there's any way in hell that you're worth anything. That's the worst. Questioning yourself like that when it used to be you never did. You start remembering the person you used to be, the strong, sure of yourself person. When you feel that, that's when the resentments starts. That makes you question yourself even more, who do you resent, yourself or them. And if them, doesn't that make you worse? You see? It's a never ending cycle. I know I am not the only one to be in it either.
On the plus side of things. I am learning a lot more about CSS, HTML and Flash. I am having a blast with it all too. I can't wait to get good enough that I can start making money at it.
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12:40 PM
Today is not so good. A few days ago, I woke up an felt like I had hair wrapped around the hanging thing in the back of my throat. I figured no problem the feeling would just go away. It didn't!
Yesterday I started feeling like I had something stuck in my throat. Out of reaction I gaged a few times, got sick a few times and even reached in my mouth to try to dislodge it. It is only getting worse. Anyhow, I went to the doctor, even though I can't afford it. Even the doctor was a bit shocked when I opened my mouth and she could clearly see this lump without the light. She said more than likely I will have to have it removed. The doctor wants me to see an Ear, Nose, Throat Specialist. No problem right? Wrong! I can't afford it! I don't have any medical insurance and can't afford that either.
So what do I have left? Right now the only thing I can do is take anti-inflammatory's and get used to it. Do you wonder how I handled that? I cried. This lump is annoying as hell as it is right there by my hangy thing. It makes me feel sick, itches, stings and just knowing it's their makes me want to gag.
Steve isn't much help. He doesn't seem to really care. Or at least enough to feel any sympathy that I have to just "deal" with this. Really though, can I expect anything more from him? He made iced tea and went back to bed since he has to work tonight. However, I'm strong. I can and will handle this. Even if it makes me cry a few times.
On top of all this, I have the boys to raise. I don't want to talk as it agitates the lump. I don't have a choice though. My kids need instruction and all that. Why can't I lay down and go to sleep for awhile? I hate that Steve has that choice, and I don't. Why do fathers get to choose and not moms? Of course I know thats not how it always is. Sadly, thats how it is in my home.
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3:59 PM
